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Golden Friendships and "Goodbye" Friendships by William Belgie (Sgt. Major, ret)
Golden Friendships and "Goodbye" Friendships by William Belgie (Sgt. Major, ret)

“Make new friends but keep the old One is silver and the other gold.” Girl Scout Camp song

For many, COVID has impacted both the quantity and quality of friendships. Many of us have discovered we have lost contact and need to re-establish connections with friends. As the social distancing COVID era wains, we have an opportunity to re-establish and develop new friendships. It also provides a chance to consider friendship’s role in our overall mental and physical well-being. During COVID, many weddings, funerals, and other social events have been shared by social media with those unable or unwilling to attend. Social media has been useful since it allowed many to participate in these significant life milestones, even vicariously. For some, our circle of friendship actually expanded

Getting to That 5-to-1 Healthy Setpoint James L. Pickett Provider and Special Advisor for Relationship Programming
Getting to That 5-to-1 Healthy Setpoint James L. Pickett Provider and Special Advisor for Relationship Programming

According to relationship experts John and Julie Gottman, a healthy balance in a relationship requires five positive experiences for each negative one. (2016, 2017). They continue by explaining that trust builds on tuning in (really listening) compassionately and nondefensively to your partner’s negative emotions. The motto of high-trust couples seems to be, ‘Baby, when you’re upset, the world stops, and I listen.’ How do we get these types of relationships?

Storm-Proofing Your Marriage - James L. Pickett Provider and Special Advisor for Relationship Programming
Storm-Proofing Your Marriage - James L. Pickett Provider and Special Advisor for Relationship Programming

Today’s marriages must weather storm after storm. Pandemics. Mass casualties. Shutdowns. Telework. Job losses. Death of loved ones. On and on. During the last year we have experienced stressors and effects on our lives and marriages that we never imagined possible. Not only those of friends, family, co-workers, and social activities like those within the church or other organizations but that of the marriage because we are in constant proximity 24 hours a day in most cases. On the plus side, these crises can cause us to focus on what’s most important…our relationships. But our marriages often suffer the most from storm forces. We have not had to deal with those relationships that consistently every single day. So, what can we do? What can you do to strengthen your marriage relationships under these unparalleled stresses?

Faith, Spirituality and Counseling - Do They Go Together?
Faith, Spirituality and Counseling - Do They Go Together?

For many people, faith and spirituality play very vital roles in defining who they are. Religious faith and spirituality bring meaning and purpose to their lives and is often the lens through which they see the world. Religious faith and spirituality can provide a vital source of strength in times of turmoil and adversity, sparking hope, healing and resiliency.

The Word “Stress” is Potentially Dangerous by Dr. Deb
The Word “Stress” is Potentially Dangerous by Dr. Deb

Is there any good reason why it’s a no-no to admit to feeling “stressed” in some dangerous work settings?

There’s a lot of tension around this word in high-risk professions. Admitting dangerous work is stressful and therefore harmful may be a sign of being enlightened, educated and open-minded about mental wellbeing. Resistance to this way of thinking is considered old school, macho, or just stubbornly ignorant. Most of us, when we think about stress,

Vicarious Trauma: The Effects on First Responders by Dr. Deb and Damedrist Wright, MS SFC (RET)
Vicarious Trauma: The Effects on First Responders by Dr. Deb and Damedrist Wright, MS SFC (RET)

As our lives and lifestyles become increasingly complex and hectic, resilience has become an ever more important skill to have. First responders who are exposed to disruptive events involving death, violence, or life-threatening situations on a daily basis are in special need of this valuable trait. When traumatic events occur